The Weight of December: Divorce Anniversaries and Emotional Healing
December—a month of twinkling lights, endless holiday ads, and family gatherings. But if you’re navigating life after divorce, it can feel like someone spiked your mulled wine with emotional landmines right? I get it because, for me, December isn’t just about decking the halls.
Two dates always hit me like a rogue snowball:
December 16th: My wedding anniversary—a bittersweet reminder of what once was.
December 21st: My divorce anniversary—the day I officially stepped onto the path of starting over.
For years, these dates would roll in, bringing a flood of grief and holiday stress. And honestly, in 2024 they still did. I bawled my eyes out in the toilets of the Marine Hotel when I saw families out enjoying all the Christmassy things. I felt so alone out shopping for gifts. I felt resentful and angry the entire day on the 21st.
The difference? I didn't stay stuck in it all.
Armed with my mindset tools and a lot of self-compassion, I handled December like the queen of emotional resilience I’m becoming.

A New Way to Navigate Old Pain
Tools and Strategies for Emotional Healing Post-Divorce
This time, instead of spiraling into a Netflix-and-tears marathon, I tried something different. Here’s what helped me shift from barely surviving to actually thriving:
🌻I embraced my emotions without guilt or judgment.
🌻 I journalled through the tough days like I was penning the next great New York Times bestseller. (one day I will be!)
🌻I practiced grounding techniques to stay present when my mind started time-traveling.
🌻And I celebrated my progress—even if that meant just making it through a particularly hard day.
These simple yet powerful strategies helped me honour my feelings while staying connected to my growth.
The Tools That Made the Difference
Here are some game-changing practices to help you navigate post-divorce life during emotionally loaded seasons:
1️⃣ Feel, Don’t Fear, Your Emotions Think of your emotions like unexpected guests at a holiday party. They might be annoying, but ignoring them doesn’t make them leave. Let yourself feel the sadness, anger, or grief—it’s part of healing.
2️⃣ Journal Like a Pro Your journal can be your best therapist, and it’s always available. Try prompts like:
What am I feeling today and why?
What’s one thing I’ve learned about myself this year?
You’d be amazed how much clarity can come from putting pen to paper
3️⃣ Ground Yourself When Emotions Take Over The 5-4-3-2-1 technique is a lifesaver.
Name:
5 things you see,
4 things you can touch,
3 things you hear,
2 things you can smell, and
1 thing you can taste.
It sounds simple, but trust me—it brings you back to the present faster than everyone rushing to restart their gym memberships in January.
4️⃣ Celebrate Your Wins Did you make it through the day without texting your ex or crying in the middle of Asda? That’s a win! Every small step forward deserves a mini celebration.
From Surviving to Thriving: How Divorce Coaching Can Help
This December taught me that pain is inevitable, but staying stuck isn’t. You don’t have to figure out divorce recovery on your own. That’s where I come in.
In my Dazzle After Divorce Programme, we focus on:
✨ Letting go of emotional baggage and reclaiming your peace.
✨ Rebuilding your confidence so you feel like the powerhouse you truly are.
✨ Creating a future filled with clarity, joy, and purpose.
This isn’t just about moving past your divorce; it’s about moving forward into a life that excites you.
Your Journey to Emotional Healing
Life is full of challenging seasons, but each one is an opportunity for growth and self-discovery. Whether you’re just beginning your post-divorce journey or well on your way, remember to honour your progress and give yourself grace. Healing isn’t about rushing to the finish line; it’s about learning, growing, and embracing your next chapter with courage.
If you’re ready to take control of your story and build a life you love, my Dazzle After Divorce Programme is here to guide you every step of the way. Let’s make this your year of transformation, strength, and unapologetic joy.
💛 P.S. What’s the most challenging part of your healing journey right now? Drop a comment below—I’d love to hear your story and support you.
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